Being with children does not mean spending quality time. Being in a room, having your child in front of your eyes, is not at all taking time for him. Catching the same frequency with your child, trying to understand him, and making him feel that you care are the most important criteria for spending quality time. Let's look at what should be paid attention to in order to spend quality time, which is very effective in the emotional development of children, and how to avoid approaches that will negatively affect their development while trying to spend time together.
Avoid constantly asking questions
Do not shower your child from school with questions about what he did that day. Of course, find out what he does and how his classes went, but learn this by chatting, not in the form of questions and answers. Feeling that he is being questioned, the child may feel anxious and bored. Therefore, it may give evasive answers or inaccurate information. You can make him talk about himself by talking about what you do during the day. For example, the question "Which lesson did you enjoy the most at school today" instead of "How were your lessons today?" will lead him to talk and talk.
Don't pretend to listen to him
Your child, with whom you spend a whole day apart, will want to tell you about the whole day with excitement, even without breathing, from the first moment he sees you. At that time, you may have things to do, instead of pretending to listen, take time for it, really listen. When you pretend to listen to your child who is running after you, he may realize this and feel worthless when you dismiss him with short answers. If there is something you really need to do, listen to it at the promised time, it will be more valuable.
Do not eat dinner alone.
Being at the table with his parents is very important for the child's confidence. During dinner, which is one of the most valuable time periods, you can have pleasant conversations and evaluate your day by telling everyone about their day.
Do not compare him with anyone, do not criticize him
Never criticize him for what he does, thinks, and feels. Don't compare their peers, siblings, or schoolmates about their classes or other subjects. Let him express himself. If you don't find it right, tell him what needs to happen without hurting him, and most importantly, make him find the truth as a role model.
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