Engage your child
When calling out to your child, be sure to call his name and talk by looking into his eyes as much as you can, conversations made with eye contact are always more effective. Make sure you have his attention when talking to him. Communicate clearly, looking into their eyes, without shouting or adding violence to your tone. When you start talking, turn down the volume of music, television, or radio that may distract him so that he can focus on you.
Make positive sentences
In your sentences, say the behaviors you want to do instead of the things that should not be done in a clear language. For example, it would be more correct to say "eat your food instead of why you don't eat your food".
Don't forget to praise your child
Do not hesitate to express your satisfaction towards him when he completes a given task. Praise him by saying you appreciate his behavior, but be careful not to overdo it.
Clearly define the rules
You can prevent him from making a discussion topic by setting rules in a clear language. In this way, he will understand that these rules should not be violated.
Give reward
Use rewards for behaviors you want to change or reinforce in your child. You can turn this method into a game by including it in the work, and you can ensure that you acquire the right behaviors in the form of winning an award that you will enjoy. For example, you can prepare a scoring system together for each correct behavior, experience the joy of winning an award when it reaches a certain point, and move your communication to a more solid ground.
Make stress-free plans
If the activity you do when you are together causes tension due to stress, you can eliminate it with some planning. For example, if the shopping you go out with is really stressful for you, take care of it when he is at school.
Speak in a way that he understands how you feel
Instead of criticizing your child's behavior, explain how you feel and how you are affected. For example, saying, "What you're doing is making me feel very sad," has a much more positive effect than saying "good kids never do".
Give yourself time to calm down