Just like every person has physiological and emotional needs, our children also have needs. The most basic of these needs are the need to be safe, the need to belong, the need to be loved and loved, and the need for self-expression. These needs are the factors that enable us to sustain our life and achieve satisfaction in life.
Apart from needs, people also have desires. Needs and desires are completely different elements. These desires begin in childhood and the underlying reason is that the child sees himself as a separate individual. It is perfectly natural for a child to have wishes.
Well, to what extent it is a correct behavior to meet the wishes of the child, let's look at the details of this issue together.
If you ask any parent, they will talk about the endless desires of their children. In fact, it is the parents who prepare the environment for the formation of these wishes. The biggest role model for the child to make a request is the parents. For example, when your mother buys a new one when she has so many clothes, can you say to the child who wants a toy, you have so many toys, why do you need to buy a new one?
As a confession for not spending quality time with your child, drowning the child in gifts will only increase his wishes. Or, thinking that you are doing a favor by buying toys or gifts so that your friend does not feel incomplete and does not lose his eyes is seen as the biggest factor in his being dissatisfied.
When he fulfills a responsibility that he has to do, immediately going to the way of rewarding will multiply his expectations. For example, it is extremely wrong to reward him for getting a high grade in his school exam or tidying his room. In other words, it is mostly the parents who make their child's wishes unlimited. In fact, the duty of parents is not to meet their wishes, but to fulfill their needs.
Experts emphasize that keeping the child's wishes waiting is extremely important for his/her development. It is known that balancing the child's wishes has extraordinary positive effects on the development of self-control, creating a mature personality structure by delaying gratification, learning to produce alternatives, experiencing effort, working patiently.
How to set limits to the child's wishes?
As parents, you must agree on the subject to be set boundaries.
Talk to your child and get his or her opinion about the limitation.
Boundaries should be clear, acceptable, and appropriate for the child's age.
Consistently about boundaries, you must first adhere to and believe in.